I Haven’t Just Been Lounging About, You Know…

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It might seem as though I’m a little bit absent at the moment – on here, on Instagram, on Youtube, on Twitter, if anyone actually still uses Twitter – and that’s not because I’ve been out in the garden, basking in the sun. It’s because I have my head down trying to follow my own advice and just do one thing.

Full disclosure: it isn’t actually my own advice, it’s the advice of Gary Keller in his book The One Thing, but it’s a rule that I’ve tried to live by since skim-reading the first few chapters and then getting a bit bored. The gist of the book is that by deciding on one thing to focus on for a set amount of time and ignoring all other distractions, you’ll get more done. And with your One Thing you can be really specific; write a letter to the council about the new bins, clean the downstairs loo, finish the final eight chapters of a novel, work out the end four bars of the piano concerto you’ve composed, make the week’s meal plans, find the missing handle from the kitchen drawers. Any of the above, but not all of them. That is the point. Pick one and do nothing else. Do not deviate from plan, do not pass go, do not collect two hundred pounds and then log into ASOS to see whether that floral shirt dress you like has gone into the sale. (Cue five hours building yourself a new fantasy capsule wardrobe.)

Reading back through my own blog posts I see that I’ve written about The One Thing before. Post here. But I wrote that oh-so-wise guide to “getting things done” in August 2013, pre-babies, pre-mind-melt, pre-obsession with always having too many projects on the go. When I look at my life then, in which all time was my own and I used to fret when it was a hot day because I had to decide between sitting indoors and working and sitting outside and sunbathing, I can’t believe how deliciously free and simple it was. If I wanted to sit tinkering with website code until 3am (did, quite a lot of the time), or have a long nap in the afternoon (most days) or call it a day early and go off to the pub, I could.

How To Concentrate and Get Things Done – 2013

Now I need at least a week’s notice if I’m going to visit a pub. And if I’m not in bed by ten then I know there’ll be trouble the next morning, especially if the first little cries of “mama” start at an ungodly 5.30am. A hot day means very little because there is no choice: if it’s a work day then I’m working, if it’s not then I’m probably lying in the middle of the trampoline being “bounced high” by two very small people and worrying that they are going to land on me and rupture my spleen/lungs and/or crack one of my ribs.

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Now is so, so much better, don’t get me wrong, but now – amid all the chaos and the extra things that I do that I didn’t do before – trying to focus on The One Thing is more important than ever.

So to cut a very long and excruciatingly dull story short, I’ve been concentrating on launching my app, The Night Feed. If you missed my preamble about it before, here, then I’ll fill you in: it’s an app for tired, bored, lonely and/or stressed people who are up in the night feeding a baby. Or just up in the night with a baby, or up in the night with a child – or, at a push, and because I hate to exclude anyone, up in the night with a partner who won’t stop bloody snoring. Any one of those people might appreciate quality (amusing) content in the middle of the night and so The Night Feed is an app for all of them.

But it’s more than an app, it’s a place. It’s more than a place, it’s a community. And if you hate places and hate people, it’s more than those things too, because it has practical tools that are invaluable if you’re up in the night feeding a new baby. A feed timer that tracks how much of a bottle the baby has had, or which boob you last fed on; sleep sounds to lull everyone back to the land of nod; expert Q&A sessions discussing everything from sleep issues to postpartum body malfunctions…

And that’s before you’ve even read the (very witty) features or shopped for baby essentials or messaged your new friends or joined in the book club conversations. Whew. I mean it’s a full time job just being on the app, let alone building it.

ruth crilly blog in greece

So that’s where I’ve been. And The Night Feed is coming soon. I hope that it will provide joy to many, including those who won’t necessarily use the feed timer or the sleep sounds. You’ll be getting a huge heads up when it’s ready to launch and I expect I’ll be giving my regular readers something of a perk, because without you lot none of this would be possible.

Watch this space for – ooh – a week or so more. Great things are about to happen! But for now, back to the grindstone. I have had an hour in the sun because I couldn’t resist the deckchair that had been plonked in the secret garden (builders are on the roof so I need somewhere to hide) but it’s nigh on impossible to see a laptop screen in this kind of light so I’m back inside, writing this, Googling laptop sun hoods (it’s a thing, apparently) and testing out the messaging function on my app. Just the one thing then…

Disclaimer: none of the above photos are recent. I just wanted lots of pictures of me lounging about doing nothing and obviously that hasn’t happened for at least four years!

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  1. July 31, 2019 / 3:31 pm

    I’m so excited about your new app! Particularly the book club part… but it sounds like it’s going to have so many awesome features and something for everyone. Even now that my daughter is three, it can still be hard to find a non-toxic community of other like-minded moms. Can’t wait for all the great things to come! Just make sure to take a very much needed self-care day after all your hard work (and focus)! :)

    Amiti x

  2. Kirsty
    July 27, 2019 / 1:00 pm

    Congratulations on the app Ruth, that’s brilliant! I don’t have a baby but do have trouble getting to sleep most nights and I love the fact you have included everyone, which is typically you and I’m grateful for that. Love to you and the family xx

  3. Kathryn
    July 27, 2019 / 11:57 am

    I’m reading this while feeding a 2 week old in the middle of the night so I am very excited for your app.

  4. Rachael
    July 27, 2019 / 9:31 am

    Yeah tried this once, my brain didn’t like it haha!
    Seriously though, I think this is also a Buddist type thing; put your energy and attention into whatever you are doing, where you are at any given moment….it’s good advice!

  5. Julia
    July 27, 2019 / 2:18 am

    I think you are a complete GENIUS coming up with this Night Feed idea. I’m looking forward to it. I’m not a mom but I suffer terribly from nightly awakenings from 1 or 2 to 4 or 5 each night. It’s likely job stress (lawyer working in a specialty banking field) plus too much blue light from my phone; oh plus menopause (thanks, receding hormones, you wicked tormentors). What’s a girl to do in the wee hours after all the magic tricks have failed to return me to the land of nod? Plus when you’re sleep deprived, isn’t it annoying how your imagination fails so you keep recycling through the Same Old Tired (favorite) websites because you simply lack the spark to come up with new search topics? Or is that just me? Chronic sleep deprivation has likely made me nuttier than I realize. Anyway, terrific idea, Ruth. I’m confident it will be well done. You’re very attentive to your work and I applaud you and thank you in advance. Now I should probably turn off this phone so I can pretend to sleep for an hour before giving up and surfing the net all night. Again.

  6. Betsy
    July 26, 2019 / 8:24 pm

    I think I’d go mad doing only one thing. But perhaps, just perhaps, I’d finish something!
    Would be like Mr.Bear, perfecting the art of sitting and staring

  7. July 26, 2019 / 6:20 pm

    Ah, one day you’ll look back at the chaotic days with your babies, and wonder where the time went.
    Your app sounds so great. You’re so clever to come up with such an idea.
    I love the concept of doing one thing. It shall be my modus operandi


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